- Does this person have enough data/ experience to speak on this topic?
- Is this person intelligent enough to make the right conclusions?
If the answer is no to any of these questions, don't ask me anything. DQI stands for If Data, Question Intelligence. (Jaskaran, 2021)
Why I have fewer friends/talk less:
In the previous centuries, we relied on friends for money, jobs, food, medical needs, matchmaking, or places of stay. But in this century, most of these needs are outsourced to governments or corporations, or the internet. You can get credit from a bank, rely on indeed to find a job, order from restaurants, call 911, use dating apps or stay in AIRBNB. The most significant effect that friends have on you is your way of thinking. How you think about the world is greatly influenced by the people around you. I would rather be alone than being with the wrong people ( or average ones). The only reason you should talk to me is for my rational decision-making process or for my worldview.
4 areas of my life:
Financial: Learning technical skills/Earning money
Physical –Yoga/Walking
Mental – Meditation/Reading Books/Journalling
Social- Friends/Community
At any point in time, I can be successful in only 3 areas. I have concluded with enough experimentation that I can not afford to fail in the first 3 areas which means that I might be a failure in the last category. I might not be as good of a friend as compared to being a good engineer or a good human being.
Preferred way of communication:
I prefer video over audio and audio over text. I am really bad at texting and I don’t even want to get good at it. Its been 2 years since I left social media and I don’t intend to use it again.
Friendship criteria:
If you want to be a friend, you need to do both of these things:
- Some form of exercise to keep yourself fit
- Read Sapiens Or Spend Time in Solitude.
